I have struggled for a few years now with the term "unexplained infertility". My husband and I have been trying to conceive for several YEARS now with no success. I have had every test under the sun. I have been poked, injected, inseminated, Dye tested, ovarian reserved looked at, both tubes perfect and finally told that I have "unexplained infertility". 'mrs moore everything looks great we just don't know why nothing is working' my husband has been tested 3 times via the magical semen analysis and all results each time looked great. Your only hope of conceiving will be through IVF I was told and then in the next breathe I heard 'but your BMI is 44 and we need you to lose 30 pounds and then we can help you.' This of course was after being told I have ''low ovarian reserve' and as I approach the infamous age of 35. So, Mrs Moore we need you to lose the 30 pounds before you turn 35 ( talk about added pressure) or there won't be much any REI can do for you, Really, I thought? I guess my question is why is this acceptable? my husband and I have worked hard to be able to afford IVF only to be told 'good luck with that'. I guess I can't understand if my ovarian reserve such an issue why is my weight a bigger issue. So we did what anyone receiving this kind of news would do...we got a 2nd and 3rd opinion and maybe it is just the state of NC but all the doctors echoed the same thing just in a different tone. I am trying to lose the weight (down 4 pounds already) but I wonder your thoughts on this and how you would feel if you were me. Thanks for reading!